Be Collared is an online lifestyle and dating club for people with a BDSM or Fetish lifestyle. Building on our expertise in alternative relationships we help people organise dates, meetings and erotic parties. Be Collared hosts thousands of BDSM personals. Created with passion, Be Collared helps you every day to find new friends and new dates.

Be Collared members can validate other members. A Validation is a sign that the persons have been seen in real life. When a profile has a couple of validations you can be sure that you are dealing with real people, and not with somebody who pretends to be somebody else. Validations are also a vote of trust.
This makes Be Collared a fake-proof BDSM & Fetish community.

Our members have access to all profiles, webmail, photo albums, Friends & Favorites, forums, webcam chat, and real life activities. If you are not a member then you are missing all the action!

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We started this website because we found that it is difficult to meet people who are interested in BDSM through ordinary means. We felt we needed a website where we could share information, photo's, make friends and find play partners. Most ordinary dating websites welcome BDSM oriented people but have no understanding about BDSM desires. It is very common for vanilla people to write in their online profiles "we are not interested in the known extremities" - usually meaning anything BDSM.


This website was created specially for the exploration of your extreme desires that not accepted on vanilla dating websites.

BDSM is a general term wich refers to a wide range of activities and forms of alternative personal and sexual relationships. The term BDSM is derived from the terms Bondage and Discipline (B&D), Domination and Submission (D&S, D/s, or Ds), Sadism and Masochism (S&M or SM). BDSM activities usually involve one person - the submissive or bottom - voluntarily giving up control to another person - the Dominant or Top. BDSM activities will often appear forced, unconsential or coerced. But in reality these roles are "played" with the full consent of all people involved. BDSM activities can include forms of dominance, submission, discipline, punishment, spanking, bondage, slave training, inflicting pain, humiliation, sexual roleplaying, sexual fetishism, kinky sex, cuckolding, sadomasochism and power exchange. Both the Dominant and submissive experience pleasure (sexual and/or nonsexual) from playing their roles.